HUMILITY: The 2nd step in Behaviour Change
Updated: Aug 18, 2020
What are we afraid of?
Our reliance on others for support
The true impact leaders can have
Harnessing humility to build trust
In my previous video, we established to change behaviour we need 3 core elements, courage, humility and discipline.
We’ve talked about courage – now it’s humility.
Human beings are not perfect, yet we try to think, feel and act that way in front of our peers, customers and clients all the time.
Why do we continue to act this way? What do we fear? What are we truly afraid of?
If we want to succeed in anything we do, we will need others.
We never achieve anything on our own - There’s always a long list of people that have supported us on the journey, they’re standing in the shadows for all of us, right now - …family, friends, mentors, colleagues and even strangers.
Think about their continued suggestions, support and guidance that’s propelled many of your life’s successes and has helped you out of the many rabbit holes we find ourselves in from time to time.
Whether it be a quick 5 min chat, a story, a laugh or even a patient ear listening to us ranting about our built-up frustrations.
No matter the situation they’re always there, and their input is immeasurable.
If you keep resisting the input of others or refuse to admit your shortcomings it’s a sure sign of stunting your own development - it also erodes the trust you’ve developed with your people.
I’ve found the most effective way to understand your true impact on others is receiving their feedback on your strengths, challenges and the triggers that impact your behaviour.
There is a great saying that others know your face better than you know yourself. Sometimes we get so busy and focused on our tasks, we’re unaware of how we’re behaving and impacting others.
The leaders that have true impact welcome input and involve others in the decision-making process and acknowledge their contributions. They admit their weaknesses, imperfections and skill deficiencies and ask for help. This builds trust amongst others and demonstrates your ability to continually seek growth.
Remember leadership is not about YOU!
The individuals and teams that harness the practice of humility build trusting, strong relationships that weather the most intense storms.
Developing trust amongst teams is one of the few remaining competitive advantages available to organisations.
So, how are you demonstrating humility?
Courage: The first step in Behaviour Change